Transformed Talk

One of the things God has been really working on me lately is still a work in progress and we’ve been at it for months. Not sure how He hasn’t given up on me yet. I’d really like to share with you about a topic He’s been teaching me and that’s the topic of Transformed Talk. 🙂

Have you ever dug really deep into the Bible and studied what you and I, as Christians, should be talking about? The kind of words that should be coming out of your mouths? What our conversations say about us?! Well… This is what we are going to talk about in this post – it’s been so heavy on my heart, but so hard to put into writing (I should have just done a video, would have been so much easier).

For the most part, we as women are all the same! We were rather blessed with the number of words that come out of our mouths on a daily basis (or maybe not so blessed). Statistics show that on average, women speak 20,000 words a day – men about 7,000. Kind of crazy, don’t you think!! Have you ever sat down and analyzed those 20,000 words??

As I studied Scripture, I was surprised at the amount of information God left for us through His instruction book of life, the Bible, about taming our tongues and being mindful of what we say. Scriptures show that not only are we humanly not able to tame our tongues, we must bridle our mouth (meaning TAKE ACTION)!Quote on bridling the tongue.

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Let me ask you, friends. If everyone was able to watch a video of the way we speak, your conversations and thoughts, would you enjoy the playback?

THE WAY WE SPEAK TO:

OUR SPOUSES- Do we build them up, encourage, love them or are we complaining, being negative, nagging, disrespectful? What percentage is positive and what negative?

OUR CHILDREN- Do our words to them heal, inspire, encourage, bring life or are we irritable, only notice the faults, discourage and not the LIGHT Jesus instructs us to be to them?

OUR PARENTS- Even though most of us are out of the home. How do we treat our parents when we talk to them even via phone? Or do we even find the time to talk to them at all? This goes for in-laws as well!

OUR FRIENDS- When we get together with our friends in a group, what is foremost in our conversation? Does anything need to be shifted?

OUR GIRLFRIENDS- Those closest to use, when the walls come down and we speak freely, what is our conversation about? Would it be one Jesus would partake in if He joined us for tea and sat around the table with us?

OURSELVES- Kept this one last, because it’s so important. What I store in my heart is what will flow out of me. What have I been storing up? Unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment? The things I dwell upon and give most of my time to with influence what comes out of me. Does my language not reflect what I’d like it to? What needs to be changed?

So WHAT DOES SCRIPTURE SAY ABOUT TAMING OUT TONGUES?

For me personally-

James 2: 1-12 On my own, I cannot tame my tongue.

James 1: 26 If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is useless.

James 3: 2- If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Matt 15: 11- Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.

Luke 6:45 The mouth speaks what the heart is full of!

When we are talking with others-

Rom 14:1 Receive one who is weak in the faith, but not to disputes over doubtful things.

WHAT ARE THE GUIDELINES FOR MY TONGUE AND TALK?

Submit my words and self to supernatural enablement to do what only the Holy Spirit is capable of doing. Submit to God and let the Holy Spirit transform me from the inside, flowing out.

WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE?

James 1:19 Help me to be quick to listen and slow to speak.

Eph 4: 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. (the building up of the one in need, that it would give grace to those who hear.)

1 Tim 4:12 But be an example to the believers in word.

Eph 5: 2-3 Let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.

Prov 18: 20 A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; from the produce of his lips he shall be filled.

Matt 12:35, But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give an account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words, you will be condemned.

Psalm 19: 14, Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.

Col 3: 8, But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.

Prov 20:19, Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.

Hebrews 13:5 says, Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise–the fruit of lips that openly profess his name.

Proverbs 17:28, Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise.

NOW WHAT?.

CONFESS to God the damage my words have made. Trying to name as many as I can remember, in myself and to those surrounding me!

CONFESS that I need the Holy Spirit in me to speak through me and guide me. For the Holy Spirit to take over my tongue and clean out my heart so what flows out reflects what’s in there. It’s REALLY hard!

PRAY that God will give a strong conscious and awareness about the impact our words make. They bring life or death! (Be prepared for God to show you, it may hurt!..)

PRACTICE speaking in a way that my words will encourage, edify, inspire, comfort, heal and bring life. Consistent practice – makes better and better.

What I practice will become a habit. My habit will become a lifestyle!

The connection between our spiritual heart and tongue cannot be broken. Before I speak, do I do a practice run on what you want to say, determine the motive behind it and whether it really needs to be said?. And if not, get a cup of water and slowly start drinking to distract yourself from speaking.

When your friends ask about your momentary silence or the reasoning for your lack of speaking, be HONEST! Tell them the Holy Spirit is working on your tongue and you are in listening/practice mode!

Consistently remind myself I cannot control my tongue, I cannot do it on my own, it’s not about ME. My dependency is on the Holy Spirit and what He can do through me!!! Giving Him the glory and honor.

CONSISTENTLY dedicate my heart, mind and tongue to the Lord, for His glory, on a DAILY basis!

“If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless” (James 1:26). This is serious!

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Lastly, I’m really excited to share with you that I’ve put onto paper the things God has taught me. The steps He has been taking me through to clean out my tongue and heart and it will be in Bible Study Format. PLEASE, don’t take it as I am TEACHING or INSTRUCTING! That is not my place in this world. However, God has really shown me A LOT and I’d love to share it with you in hopes at least one of you will be blessed by it. 🙂 🙂

Next Friday, come back for the printouts. If you have a group of friends, do it together. It’s powerful! I’ll share tips and ideas how to do it as a study on your own or with a group. FREE printouts of everything will be provided.

It will be in 3 step format, meaning you can take 3 weeks to do it. We need time to process everything and make sure it sinks deep.

1) Discussion over the impact our tongue/words have on our mind, spirit and body. (Shows our sinful state.)

2.) Learning through Scripture how to change our mindset and what we need to do to transform our talk. (Takes Scripture as an Instruction guide.)

3). How to put into practice what we’ve learned! (Our dependency on the Holy Spirit.)

I’d love to hear your input and comments on this topic. It’s a DEEP one. Do you often do Bible Studies or is this something new to you?

THANK YOU for visiting our online home, our little Corner of the internet. 🙂 <3

Fondly,

Valentina

Valentina's Corner

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  • penyubur 03/05/2018, 11:36 am

    Prov 3:5,6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and He will make your paths straight. Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

    • admin 03/05/2018, 5:36 pm

      Beautiful verses. Thank you for sharing.

  • Julie 03/05/2018, 10:30 am

    Hello dear!! The post is amazing! Love it! So powerfull! Thank you so much for sharing dear!!
    God bless you Valentina!!
    Can’t wait for the print out version!
    Thank you!

    • admin 03/05/2018, 5:38 pm

      Thanks so much, Julie. I’m so happy to hear what God is teaching me (a continued work in progress) is a blessing to someone else.
      I think you will LOVE the printouts. They have a piece of my heart with them. <3

    • Julie 03/13/2018, 8:29 pm

      Hello dear!
      Did you post the print out yet? I was wondering maybe I missed it?
      Thanks!!
      God bless you!☺️

      • admin 03/14/2018, 11:14 am

        Hi, Julie. I am SOOO happy you were waiting for that! I accidentally scheduled it for the wrong Friday. So it will be up this Friday! I cannot wait for your feedback. <3

  • Anya S. 02/28/2018, 12:27 pm

    This is so powerful. Thanks for speaking what’s on your heart. Always can relate. I will be doing the study with my daughters, cannot wait for it. ?
    I hope you’ll do more!! A good topic would be respect for elders. This new generation needs that topic.
    Blessing to your family.

    • admin 03/05/2018, 5:48 pm

      Anya, your comment seriously had me crying (happy tears). I struggled with whether to post this for many weeks. I kept saying no because it’s very personal and not something other people may struggle with, that I was the only weird one. God kept reinforcing He wanted me to post it. Reading your comment is the most beautiful confirmation. Though I feel unworthy, to Him be the glory!
      I hope you are as blessed by the study as I was, though it’s hard to change old habits.
      I have a few other studies I have prepared for times I spoke at women’s conferences or youth meetings. I will see how this study is received and maybe do a few more:). I have Modesty and Submissive Wife, two topics very dear to my heart. I will have to search Scripture for respect – it’s such a good topic.

  • Sophie 02/26/2018, 11:34 pm

    Thanks Valentina this is great timing for me. How I speak has been on my mind especially how I speak towards my children and husband. I want to build them up with my words not always be correcting or critical. I’m not at all a chatty/talkative person and giving praise and being encouraging isn’t something I find easy. But I know it is really important to work on. I tend to be very critical of myself and I guess, in part, that’s what’s at the heart of the problem. I’ll be reading this post over again a few times and am looking forward to the print off ?
    I came across a blog post the other day where a mother set up a jar labelled bad words and another labelled good words and they would put a marble in when good or bad words were said. A marble can be smooth and beautiful but can be hard and hurt when thrown. Similar to the differences between good and bad words. I thought it would be a good way to make me and my kids more aware of how we speak.
    I also struggle with the differences between not striving on my own strength but striving while looking for Him to change me if that makes sense?
    Sorry for the long comment ? ☺️

    • admin 03/05/2018, 5:54 pm

      Sophie, I just LOVED your comment. I have read it several times. I just really appreciate women that can be honest and open, one that can be raw and take all the walls down. You, my friend, are a special one and don’t let anyone EVER tell you otherwise.
      I loved the illustration of the jars. How creative. I’ll have to try that with my kiddos, thanks so much for sharing!
      PLEASE DON’T apologize for the long comment. They are my FAVORITE to read. I get to know you more and that’s special. I hope you love this study and God will meet you on your personal level. He’s so good at that!! <3

  • Sara 02/26/2018, 10:05 pm

    What a great topic!!!! I always love your personal posts, this one is really personal to me.
    This has been something heavy on my heart like you. Especially when I get together with friends. It seems like we have time to talk about everyone and everything but God. The if bring it up they almost laugh at me. I feel God is telling me I need to find different friends. ? I seriously cannot wait for the study.

    • admin 03/05/2018, 5:57 pm

      Sara, Thanks so much for stopping by. I think you are in for a treat with this study. I’ve included a little evaluation that is so helpful about friends. 🙂
      I so appreciate hearing I’m not the only one that needed some trimming. Be blessed and thanks for being a part of our online home.

  • Karina 02/26/2018, 4:05 pm

    This was so beautiful, Valia. I had tears in my eyes bcse its an answer to prayer. Ive been struggling so hard with yelling at my kids and I feel like I cant even control it, I have 4 kids under 4. I cant wait for the study. Thank for sharing about this topic.

    • admin 03/03/2018, 11:50 am

      It really is a great topic. I’m SOO happy you were blessed by it! <3 You're going to love the study.

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