One of the things God has been really working on me lately is still a work in progress and we’ve been at it for months. Not sure how He hasn’t given up on me yet. I’d really like to share with you about a topic He’s been teaching me and that’s the topic of Transformed Talk. 🙂

Have you ever dug really deep into the Bible and studied what you and I, as Christians, should be talking about? The kind of words that should be coming out of your mouths? What our conversations say about us?! Well… This is what we are going to talk about in this post – it’s been so heavy on my heart, but so hard to put into writing (I should have just done a video, would have been so much easier).

For the most part, we as women are all the same! We were rather blessed with the number of words that come out of our mouths on a daily basis (or maybe not so blessed). Statistics show that on average, women speak 20,000 words a day – men about 7,000. Kind of crazy, don’t you think!! Have you ever sat down and analyzed those 20,000 words??

As I studied Scripture, I was surprised at the amount of information God left for us through His instruction book of life, the Bible, about taming our tongues and being mindful of what we say. Scriptures show that not only are we humanly not able to tame our tongues, we must bridle our mouth (meaning TAKE ACTION)!Quote on bridling the tongue.

Let me ask you, friends. If everyone was able to watch a video of the way we speak, your conversations and thoughts, would you enjoy the playback?


OUR SPOUSES- Do we build them up, encourage, love them or are we complaining, being negative, nagging, disrespectful? What percentage is positive and what negative?

OUR CHILDREN- Do our words to them heal, inspire, encourage, bring life or are we irritable, only notice the faults, discourage and not the LIGHT Jesus instructs us to be to them?

OUR PARENTS- Even though most of us are out of the home. How do we treat our parents when we talk to them even via phone? Or do we even find the time to talk to them at all? This goes for in-laws as well!

OUR FRIENDS- When we get together with our friends in a group, what is foremost in our conversation? Does anything need to be shifted?

OUR GIRLFRIENDS- Those closest to use, when the walls come down and we speak freely, what is our conversation about? Would it be one Jesus would partake in if He joined us for tea and sat around the table with us?

OURSELVES- Kept this one last, because it’s so important. What I store in my heart is what will flow out of me. What have I been storing up? Unforgiveness, bitterness, resentment? The things I dwell upon and give most of my time to with influence what comes out of me. Does my language not reflect what I’d like it to? What needs to be changed?


For me personally-

James 2: 1-12 On my own, I cannot tame my tongue.

James 1: 26 If anyone among you thinks he is religious, and does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this one’s religion is useless.

James 3: 2- If anyone does not stumble in word, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle the whole body.

Matt 15: 11- Not what goes into the mouth defiles a man; but what comes out of the mouth, this defiles a man.

Luke 6:45 The mouth speaks what the heart is full of!

When we are talking with others-

Rom 14:1 Receive one who is weak in the faith, but not to disputes over doubtful things.


Submit my words and self to supernatural enablement to do what only the Holy Spirit is capable of doing. Submit to God and let the Holy Spirit transform me from the inside, flowing out.


James 1:19 Help me to be quick to listen and slow to speak.

Eph 4: 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. (the building up of the one in need, that it would give grace to those who hear.)

1 Tim 4:12 But be an example to the believers in word.

Eph 5: 2-3 Let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks.

Prov 18: 20 A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth; from the produce of his lips he shall be filled.

Matt 12:35, But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give an account of it in the day of judgment. For by your words you will be justified, and by your words, you will be condemned.

Psalm 19: 14, Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O Lord, my strength and my Redeemer.

Col 3: 8, But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.

Prov 20:19, Whoever goes about slandering reveals secrets; therefore do not associate with a simple babbler.

Hebrews 13:5 says, Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God a sacrifice of praise–the fruit of lips that openly profess his name.

Proverbs 17:28, Even a fool, when he keeps silent, is considered wise.


CONFESS to God the damage my words have made. Trying to name as many as I can remember, in myself and to those surrounding me!

CONFESS that I need the Holy Spirit in me to speak through me and guide me. For the Holy Spirit to take over my tongue and clean out my heart so what flows out reflects what’s in there. It’s REALLY hard!

PRAY that God will give a strong conscious and awareness about the impact our words make. They bring life or death! (Be prepared for God to show you, it may hurt!..)

PRACTICE speaking in a way that my words will encourage, edify, inspire, comfort, heal and bring life. Consistent practice – makes better and better.

What I practice will become a habit. My habit will become a lifestyle!

The connection between our spiritual heart and tongue cannot be broken. Before I speak, do I do a practice run on what you want to say, determine the motive behind it and whether it really needs to be said?. And if not, get a cup of water and slowly start drinking to distract yourself from speaking.

When your friends ask about your momentary silence or the reasoning for your lack of speaking, be HONEST! Tell them the Holy Spirit is working on your tongue and you are in listening/practice mode!

Consistently remind myself I cannot control my tongue, I cannot do it on my own, it’s not about ME. My dependency is on the Holy Spirit and what He can do through me!!! Giving Him the glory and honor.

CONSISTENTLY dedicate my heart, mind and tongue to the Lord, for His glory, on a DAILY basis!

“If anyone thinks himself to be religious, and yet does not bridle his tongue but deceives his own heart, this man’s religion is worthless” (James 1:26). This is serious!


Lastly, I’m really excited to share with you that I’ve put onto paper the things God has taught me. The steps He has been taking me through to clean out my tongue and heart and it will be in Bible Study Format. PLEASE, don’t take it as I am TEACHING or INSTRUCTING! That is not my place in this world. However, God has really shown me A LOT and I’d love to share it with you in hopes at least one of you will be blessed by it. 🙂 🙂

Next Friday, come back for the printouts. If you have a group of friends, do it together. It’s powerful! I’ll share tips and ideas how to do it as a study on your own or with a group. FREE printouts of everything will be provided.

It will be in 3 step format, meaning you can take 3 weeks to do it. We need time to process everything and make sure it sinks deep.

1) Discussion over the impact our tongue/words have on our mind, spirit and body. (Shows our sinful state.)

2.) Learning through Scripture how to change our mindset and what we need to do to transform our talk. (Takes Scripture as an Instruction guide.)

3). How to put into practice what we’ve learned! (Our dependency on the Holy Spirit.)

I’d love to hear your input and comments on this topic. It’s a DEEP one. Do you often do Bible Studies or is this something new to you?

THANK YOU for visiting our online home, our little Corner of the internet. 🙂 <3



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